A Guide For Parents With Kids That Are Too Obsessed With Being Cool/ Popular
Being a parent could be the greatest challenge in your life. This is especially true if you have children that are growing up quickly. As our children grow older, they can’t help but be conscious on what other people and kids think about them. Believe it or not, this is a phase wherein being “cool” is a big deal for our kids. Suddenly, they are embarrassed whenever we walk with them in school. They become very concerned of their image. Being popular and being able to fit in are the main reasons why they do this.
Just in case your kid is one of them, be calm and remember that being a kid is really tough. In this article, allow me to share with you some tips that you may use as your guide when your kids become too obsessed with being cool.
1. Let them be.
This may be hard to believe at first but the best solution to this dilemma is to let our children be. As an adult you are very aware of the fact that being popular and being cool is not important in life. But you have to understand that your kids are not yet matured thinkers. When you were a kid, I bet you think the same way.
Sometimes the best decision is to remain calm and just let our children be as they experience this tough phase in their lives. Give him the things he is desperate for provided you have the budget for it. But of course, it is not smart to break the bank just for your kid to be popular. For as long as your child does not disrespect you and demand you to buy the things he needs to be popular in school, you should not panic because this is just a normal phase in hiss life.
2. Tell them what’s really important.
If you decided to let your kid be but he is going too far and is starting to lose perspective, you now have to remind him of the things that are really important. Do not discourage them, instead, tell them that it is their attitude and actions that will make them popular and accepted. Remind them that being kind and friendly is the key to being cool and it is not the clothes or things they have.
3. You have to communicate with your children.
Every problem with our kids can be solved by communicating with them. Remind them of how lucky they really are, for having a family that gives them food, shelter, and love each and everyday. Communicate well with your kid so he does not resent you by not giving him what he likes.